I got married at a age which is definitely considered ‘young’ Well, it was young, I do not deny that.
No…it was not a child marriage. Young marriage, not child marriage.
And, I had to see SHOCK in the eyes of people, who were totally unrelated to me.
OMG Zainab, are you nuts? Itni desperate hai kya?
(Are you so desperate?)
So no career for you? Just chulha chakki?
I can understand you are shocked, because you have different plans. But, please do not judge me. Maybe I’m not ambitious enough? Maybe that’s what my parents think is the best ? Maybe I’m in love?
You will be surprised just a couple of years back, when I was taking a stroll in the park near my home, a group of my friends mommies started whispering “Isn’t she the one who got married young”?
When I said hi, they said…& Zainab hows it going, you would be married for a decade now right?
And, do you know some of the ‘people’ who shot these questions at me now say :
Accha hai you got married, humari pata nahi kab hogi”
(Good you tied the knot, when you could. We don’t know when our number will come)
Although, I would not called these people ‘monsters‘ because lets admit we all have opinions. But, the ‘act’ of telling someone up front “Oh, miss or shall I say Mrs’ with a lot of sarcasm does not sound kind to me.
I did my graduation post my wedding. Then, I was labelled as ‘oh she is living a student life‘ by many of my relatives.
The way they would tell my MIL that, Don’t you feel like becoming a granny? Why does Z want to study?
And, now they say “Chalo good you enjoyed life before you became a mum” #Jealousy?
Well, all I want to say is that no matter what People WILL judge. So, there is absolutely no point in worrying more than we should. What are your thoughts?
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