Self Love F – Forgiveness A to Z Challenge #atozchallenge
Its hardest to forgive ourselves, but we must we should. There is no point in carrying excess baggage and making life harder than it already is. But, does it come as easily? Let’s talk about Forgiveness today.
Why and How to forgive ourselves
- What’s done is done and nothing can undo it. Unfortunately, our life does not have the “undo” button. But, it does have the “delete history” so let’s use it wisely, and whereever needed.
- Do not be in denial. There is no escape there. Instead, admit to yourself that you made a mistake. To err is to human, right? No one is perfect The best of us make mistakes, and it will be ok.
- Talk to a professional or a friend who will not judge you. There is more to you than just that feeling of remorse or guilt. At times, all we need is a pat on the shoulder from someone who cares.
- I read somewhere, that “What others think of you is none of your business” So, its time (easier said) to throw off what other people think of you. Like we “hurt” ourselves, other people also hurt us It does not mean they are bad. Quoting Misha. “ All are good people it’s just that you guys are having a disconnected moment” Besides, why give the other person so much power? Try to forgive them and yourself too.
- The mistakes you make, take them as a lesson. Do not dwell on it. and, also do not repeat them. Again easier said, than done. What I genuinely, feel is that these habits will form with practice. The act of self-love is not going to be quick and on the flip of a switch.
Like we workout for a better physique, we will need to train ourselves slowly, to forgive ourselves.
We all make mistakes, and forgiving our own is the hardest. So, let’s try with forgiving others 🙂
If you are able to forgive yourself, please tell how did you train yourself for the same 🙂
Self forgiveness is actually one of the toughest things for empathetic people to do. Have seen so many good people struggle
You have put up everything in such an easy and simple way. Misha’s quote that All are good people… is so relevant and true. Just loved it.
Forgiveness is really important. Self or others one should learn to forget to make things better.
Woow a wonderful post! Soo true! Loved reading it
It’s hard to forgive oneself but life goes on and one has to move on. I think with time we all learn to let go.
You know, it is so much easier to forgive others than ourselves! I find that most difficult.
Also, I realized after so long, that forgiving others doesn’t mean you have to take them back in your life!
My 2 big lessons in forgiveness!
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All of us make mistakes. While we may forgive others but forgiving ourselves for our mistakes isnt easy. But we need to do that else the shame and guilt will play on a loop in our head and make us live in the past. And all this stops us from moving ahead.
Some important points there, Z! Forgiveness is an important aspect of self-love!
All very useful tips, Zainab. It is only of late that I am working on letting go and forgiving myself. Holding onto self anger does a lot of harm in the long run. I especially liked your tip about approaching a professional. Somehow, in India, we never think of doing it. From personal experience I can vouch that it is very helpful.