Self Love E – Enjoy A to Z Challenge #atozchallenge
My husband travels a lot. Like a. lot. And, not that we are together all the time, but I used to feel very bored when he would be out. We both enjoyed watching a lot of shows, on DVD’s even before Netflix was in vogue. That was our way of enjoyment, daily.
Slowly, I realized that it’s ok for him to enjoy where he travels, and similarly for me too.
It’s ok to go for a movie, visit a mall and binge watch a series when he’s not around.
Our love for ourselves should be big enough to NOT feel guilty or sad when we enjoy without our spouse.
It really is okay. Yes, we both are married, etc, but then we need to “be”
I will admit, that I used to feel very lonely, sad and what not. But, with time I got over the “enjoying only with him” factor. In fact he always encouraged me to enjoy.
So, ladies here is to being ourselves and three cheers for the men who do not feel insecure when ladies enjoy.
Some TV shows (Girly Ones)
Younger
Desperate Housewives
Gilmore Girls
Gossip Girls
Some Girly Movies
Kissing Booth (no judging)
Everafter
The Proposal
The Ugly Truth
P.S I love you
I will talk about guilt, in one of the later posts, but please know that there is absolutely NO REASON to feel guilty for enjoying.
Enjoying your life, your day at home, or maybe a spa day.
It’s always fun to do things as a couple, but as the song goes
“Everybody needs a little time away,” I heard her say, “from each other.”
“Even lover needs a holiday far away from each other.”
Hold me now. It’s hard for me to say I’m sorry. I just want you to stay.
Did you check out the post on D, it’s a funny one. Do check out here.
Do you think I made a valid point? Please leave your honest thoughts!
My husband travels a lot too.Also when he is in town he isn’t at home for 14 to 16 hours of the day. That was the reason i started blogging in search of a tribe which will give me company.
And I have now learnt to enjoy myself in his absence.
Your post comes at the right time.
Definitely a valid point Zainab. We have to learn to ‘be’ with ourselves first. Space is a very crucial part of my relationship, the problem arises when one wants it more than the other. But, with time it balances out. I guess that is what marriage is about..
And I definitely enjoy alone and with my girlfriends(when I get the time, that is, with 2 kids in tow!)
Ditto, Z! Ah, My husband travels a lot too and I used to feel so bored sitting at home alone, especially after working for almost a decade, this was like a punishment – doing nothing. But now I have started enjoying this break. I love my me-time, the solitude and indulge in a home spa or binge-watch Netflix without any guilt. 🙂
Absolutely agree. In a marriage, time together is important but so is time apart. My husband and I have different work travel schedules and we have learnt to enjoy our alone time. He calls his friends home and cooks while I binge watch on series or go out for a solo movie etc. Having some time for ourselves and enjoying that time, either to pursue our own interests or just to relax should be done guilt-free.