Does making me love myself, make me a narcissist? Or does it? They say that happiness comes from within, and I agree. But, what is often forgotten is that how can we cultivate that happiness.
True, that happiness gets cultivated in different ways for different people. The man who has a pet dog, will feel happy after the dog gets a new collar. The mom gets happy after the child is well-fed. I could go on, but there is one small thing which is missed out!
Loving ourselves.
Loving myself does not mean that I can take endless selfies. Although that’s a start 😉
Loving myself means to put myself first, whenever I can. I am a mother & I very well understand that it’s not possible for mums to sleep in when the school starts. But, will it be too bad to give yourself the extra five minutes which might rejuvenate you?
As I said, loving oneself means different things to different people, but one thing is common: be kind to yourself and do not put yourself down.
Well, to answer my own question? I don’t think loving myself makes me a narcissist. Not at all. I think its important to love ourselves, because If Im not for me, who is?
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Prioritizing yourself does not mean to admire yourself whole day and blow your own toot.
Rather it means, to take care of yourself, like you would of your spouse, child , family or anyone who is important to you.
Are you sleep deprived and it has started showing under your eyes? It is okay- to go to bed early, or buy that costly under-eye cream which might help you.
It’s OK to take care of ‘your’ physical appearance, be it your eyes, hair, body etc.
If you join a gym and end up surprising yourself, by actually going regularly- do not forget to pat yourself on the back. Just like you would someone else, if they achieved something.
As long as, you doing the duties that you are supposed to do, I see no harm in indulging in ‘self-love’ every now & then.
Love yourself, after all you are are a part of you.
In case not clear, the first prompt is Self Love, would love to know your thoughts!
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One needs to love one’s own self. Only then we can love others! Loved every bit of this post.
A very nice take for that prompt. And yes, one of the most underrated aspects is self love… Caring for yourself whether it be taking the extra five minutes to look good or going to the gym… It makes a difference
Excellent Post , It’s true that at times we neglect ourselves , so Self Love is so necessary 🙂
Bahut sahi baat hai, self love n respect sabse pehle aana chaiye 👍👍
Zee, I completely agree with you on this one. if you cant love and respect yourself, how will you do it for others! being a mum does not mean you work yourself to the ground 🙂 loved the post
What a positive post! It’s so important to love ourself to be able to bring out best… And it certainly doesn’t make us narcissist.. There’s a fine line between love and obsession, after all.
Once my partner said that why do I go for morning walk? He doesn’t feel that I am fast or he hasn’t told me to go.
To this I replied that I regularly go because I breathe positivity when I walk. I get energy to resist the negative vibes at home.
I go simply because I love my body.
Charity begins at home. And for self the home is nothing but self. Its a good idea then to love self first.
Thoughtful post Zainab!
Loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves and doing stuff that makes us happy is not selfish or narcissistic! If we are not in a good place ourselves then we are worthless to anyone else!
That’s beautiful take on the prompt. Loving myself doesn’t make me self-centred. It’s token of thanks towards the inner me.
I dont think you are a narcissist if you love yourself. In fact, self love is very important for everyone. It boosts up the confidence and makes you happy.
So true self love is much needed to keep happy and healthy. Mental health depends on self love and confidence and you are right if you don’t stand up for your self and love your self who will
Yes self love is very important. I wrote a post on sologamy for Bellybytes this year which underlined that very concept. Nice prompt Z
I am in love with the prompt.Linking up quickly .Great idea of the link up.
It is necessary that each of us take care of ownself before showering love to others.
Caring about yourself doesn’t make you a selfish mom ..If you don’t do this ..Who will ..Loved your take ..
I loved the words If I am not for me, who is? This summarized the whole idea behind self love.
What a nice idea Zainab. Wish you luck with this one . And like the airlines announcement , take care of yourself first before you take care of others . I love myself too !
I agree… Loving oneself doesn’t mean that you are becoming self-centered. It means that you are valuing yourself. And as they say, ‘if you cannot keep yourself Happy, how will you keep others Happy.’
what a great prompt, will link up my post very soon.
There’s almost no time nowadays and in that rush we forgot a very important thing – ourselves. A good post to remind us to stop and take some time for ourselves
We can’t love others until we learn to love ourselves. Beautiful post and concept ..
This reminded me of the saying, “We can’t pour from an empty cup”, meaning if we our empty and feel not loved, we can’t give others love.
You have to be there for yourself, before you’re there for others. True that!
Linked up with my post, Z!
Self care and self love is very important if you want to keep people around you happy too. I do not think loving self makes one selfish.
I Love myself. I sometimes feel that makes me self-centered at certain levels. But that is fine, i have come a long way to be the way i am.
Loved the post-Zainab as always! 🙂
If you don’t love yourself, you won’t love anyone else. It all begins from within.
Awesome prompt!! Self- Love doesn’t need external validation, it comes from inside and gives self-comfort.
I absolutely loved this prompt. There is a sense of fulfillment when we start loving ourselves and put our happiness on the priority list 🙂
This is such a lovely topic and I am really glad that I came across this post 🙂 Thank you for sharing this. People need to realise this 🙂
Thanks for this series Zainab. I could share my my personal story too .
You have rightly highlighted the importance to prioritise oneself and yes that does t mean one is selfish. In order to make everyone else happy one needs to be happy themselves.
such a lovely prompt and a very affirmative post!
Putting ourselves before others doesn’t come to us women naturally. I wish it did, Loved this post. We do need to invest in ourselves more and show ourselves some love occasionally.